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Get your relationship back on track

Find out what you can do for yourself!

Break the vicious cycle and find your way back to connection and love. This self-help program will steer you out of your relationship crisis in just 12 weeks. Anonymous and from the comfort of your own home! This method also works even if your partner doesn’t (yet) want to participate.

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Back to lasting love in 12 weeks

Do you find yourself and your partner increasingly arguing or falling into a negative spiral? Does it sometimes feel like you’re speaking different languages? Are irritations dominating the foreground, so you don’t see the positive or fun things in each other anymore? Do you feel increasingly isolated from your partner and lonely in your relationship? 

Reconnect with your partner
When you’re in a relationship, you occasionally experience problems. And unsurprisingly, you then long for how things used to be. When you naturally gave one another your full attention, were always paying each other little compliments and enjoying the fun things in life together. Do you want to feel close and connected in your relationship again?

You can achieve so much more
This program focuses on sustainably improving your relationship using the popular EFT method. We'll guide you, step by step, back to lasting love and connection. With our help, you can restore your relationship!

What you will you achieve in those 12 weeks?

  • Escape your crisis!
  • Learn to successfully handle and resolve conflicts
  • Making room for your personal and shared needs
  • Better communication with your partner
  • Get giving and taking in better balance 
  • Connection and intimacy
  • More love and appreciation for yourself and your partner

Discover (for free) the real cause of stress, pain and fighting in relationships!

Try one week of our program and discover why many of our participants are so positive about our approach. 

  • Free trial without obligation
  • Anonymous
  • Start when it best suits you 
  • No payment information required
  • Stops automatically
Start your FREE trial
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A program with fantastic results!

Developed by EFT relationship therapist, Anoek Gerlings, and based on the scientifically proven Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) method. Together with Rik Heijmen, who has personal experience of a relationship breakdown, Anoek takes you through 7 steps in this 12-week online self-help program. They dive deep and inspire with lightness. Hundreds of people have now followed the program with fantastic results!

Couples Counseling program: Back to lasting love in 12 weeks

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Eva (42)

"Monsley is a great way to achieve a deeper conversation together. You work consciously with each other every week, and so break through patterns and improve your relationship."

Jurgen (36)

"I had a very positive experience with the program. It made us both more fun, more relaxed together, so we could give more space and attention to the other person."

Annike (53)

"Accessible, everything was easy to find, the materials were attractive. The videos were also good with relevant examples that provide insights into, for example, what my partner and I need to be doing for each other."
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How do we help get back to love and connection?

 
Online video lessons

27 videos in 12 weeks that will inspire you and deepen your understanding

Practical assignments

Practical assignments to apply your new insights. 20 to 50 minutes per week.

Support by therapist

Ask questions of relationship therapist, Anoek, via email and get a personal response.

Privacy guaranteed.

Privacy guaranteed. Invest in your relationship anonymously.

Monsley's Online Couples Counseling program

Break the vicious cycle and find your way back to connection and love. This self-help program will steer you out of your relationship crisis in just 12 weeks. Anonymous and from the comfort of your own home! 

More information and prices

Our advantages

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Anonymous and safe

We do not need more than an email address and a name to get you started. Feel free to use a made-up name if you want.

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No therapy visits needed 

You can do it yourself, with our help, using our weekly videos and practical assignments, and personal assistance from a real therapist via email.

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Whenever it suits you

Sign up, start immediately and determine your own pace. You need about one hour per week, so it's possible to combine this program with a busy schedule.

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What do you need to improve your relationship?

Discover (for free) the real causes of stress, pain and fighting in relationships!

Try one week of our program and discover why many of our participants are so positive about our approach.

  • Free trial without obligation
  • Anonymous
  • Start when it best suits you 
  • No payment information required
  • Stops automatically
Start your FREE trial

The 7 steps to lasting love and connection

Step 1: 'Understanding relationship patterns.'

Declare war on the invisible causes of stress, pain and fighting in your relationship. This step shows that your love connection has been swamped by negative patterns and misunderstandings. (Week 1 & 2)

Step 2: 'Understanding your needs'

Get a better understanding of what’s going on inside you, which in turn will help your partner to better understand and support you. Increase your awareness of your own needs. Discover the particular way that you give and receive love. (Week 3 & 4)

Step 3: 'Pain in relationships'

In every relationship, partners unintentionally hurt each other. Until we learn how to properly make contact with them, we will be continually 'triggering' a pain point in the other person. We'll show you how to stop doing this to each other. (Week 5)

Step 4: 'Acceptance'

Learn to feel that you can influence any situation in which you find yourself, by accepting what you cannot change. (Week 6)

Step 5: 'Addressing negative patterns'

Address the negative patterns that undermine your relationship and learn to stay connected by communicating better. Dare to be vulnerable and strengthen your love and connection! (Week 7 & 8)

Step 6: 'Reconnecting'

Find a new balance in 'giving' and 'taking.' Lay a firm foundation for the further growth of your relationship. (Week 9, 10 & 11)

Step 7: 'Investing in and enjoying.'

This step will help you rediscover each other and teach you how to easily have fun together and enjoy each other's attention and intimacy. (Week 12)

Extras

- Inspirational tips for books, podcasts and videos
- In-depth downloads
- Online tests and assessment
- Access to relationship therapist at any time by email

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Monsley's Online Couples Counseling program

Break the vicious cycle and find your way back to connection and love. This self-help program will steer you out of your relationship crisis in just 12 weeks. All from the comfort of your own home! Start your program now:

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Do this now: Test your relationship

(you can do this test individually)

The extent to which we feel connected to our loved ones, friends and those around us largely determines our happiness and the quality of our relationships. How connected do you feel to your partner?

Test the 5 levels of connectedness in less than 2 minutes:

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